I've been a sucker of fraud. The wisest thing you can do is face up to the reality, admit you were a sucker/victim/whatever word you want to use that's most comfortable for you, and learn from the situation so you can better protect yourself in the future.Lost Income wrote:Thanks for more of your inconsiderate asshole comments. It must be interesting to live in your perfect world.
I'm a profligate helper.... or I used to be. I can't actually claim that anymore. I run into people outside supermarkets with some story about their situation and could I just give them $20 so they can get some groceries.
Once upon a time, I'd have handed over the $20 without hesitation or thought. But I hit a turning point where I realized they don't care in the slightest what position that leaves me in. And worse, when you share with them what happened to you - instead of thanking you for the real price you paid to help them, they turn on you:
That stung. A LOT. But I woke up and realized how much a fool I had been.It was your own fault for lending me the money, you shouldn't have done that
Now... when that person asks for money for groceries, I offer to take them into the store and get them a bag of groceries. Strangely enough, they all decline. Or maybe not so strangely since they obviously didn't really want the money for food after all.
Now you can be upset because someone else prefers to use the word sucker or fool or some other word you wouldn't like. But ultimately, the person calling you a fool/sucker/victim/whatever isn't the person who took your money. I'd suggest you redirect that anger you have at the individuals who really deserve it: the people who took your money and yourself for not understanding the situation well enough to be able to protect yourself from it. Use it as a learning experience so you can avoid repeating the situation in the future.
But directing your aggression at Gregg because he uses the term sucker instead of some more "politically correct" term? That's not going to help you at all. In fact, the reality is that your aggression will likely backfire. You may have a question coming up that Gregg has an answer to which he may not want to answer because you decided to call him an asshole when he was simply pointing out the reality.
I've been on the receiving end of such undeserved, unwarranted aggression. And I personally have absolutely no intention of helping individuals who punish me when all I did was try to help them. Perhaps Gregg is a better man than I am in that regard.